Why Marriage?


‘Because God said so‘ can, occasionally, be an okay answer for a Christian who trusts God, but to an unbeliever it is like eating fire; likewise, to a disconnected child it is going to mean absolute rebellion.

Every three-year-old goes through the phase where, whatever is said to them, they’ll ask–Why?
Martha, it’s time to go to bed.
Because it’s getting late and we need to be up early for work, and you have school.
Because we have bills, and you need an education.
That’s life in the real world. OK… Now let’s go on to bed.
BECAUSE–I SAID SO. Now—go to bed or you’ll feel what happens next.
With so many negatives attached to the institution of marriage, it’s almost justifiable to ask; why…?
Why get married when you can just live together?
Why get married when “men can’t be faithful, and women cannot be trusted”?
Why get married when you can remain single and don’t have to deal with a spouse.
Who needs a man when a girl can have all the pleasure she wants with her toys?
Who needs a wife, when you can have the woman over for the weekend.

So, Why marriage?
1.Because God said so; “It’s not good that the man should be alone. I will make him an help meet.” Genesis 2:18. Living single is not part of the Masters plan.

2. A man needs a woman, and a woman needs a man to carry out the divine plan. Adam and Eve were the only two people present when God said, “Be fruitful and multiply… ” Genesis 1:28.

3. Any sexual activity outside of marriage is adultery or fornication. It’s not open-mindedness, and It’s not sexual fluidity. But, It’s degenerative, it’s sinful, and it’s wrong.

4. Marriage is the foundation for the family. An in-committed relationship has no structure. Hence “wherever Papa lays his hat, that’s his home.” Mama is never at home because she always has some place to go. Where? No one knows. We can speculate, but…. Thus, the children are left to fend for themselves with no adult supervision.
God in his infinite wisdom established the family, a man, his wife, and the children. Regardless of ethnicity and even in the animal kingdom, the family is made up of a male, a female, and their babies.

5. The most honorable thing a man can do in the eyes of God is to get married and take care of his family–in doing so, he’s following the example of Christ.

6. In marriage, a husband learns to love like Christ. God’s plan is that marriage progressively molds the man into the image of Christ. A man at the moment of his most intimate pleasure is most vulnerable. A wise woman knows how and when to make her request known.
Like Christ—who, for the joy set before him endured the death of the cross. In His most vulnerable moment, “grace” flowed without measure.

7. The married pastor learns (first-hand) the relationship between, Christ and the Church. For, the husband is to the wife, what Christ is to the church. Conversely, the wife is to her husband what the church is to Christ. Therefore, the pastors home is his first church. “For if a man knows not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God. 1Timothy 3:5.

8. In marriage, the wife exemplifies the church–she learns obedience to God by submitting to her husband. “wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord in everything.” Ephesians 5:24. Her submission to her husband is directly proportionate to her submission to God. If she refuses to obey God, she will not submit to her husband.

9. Marriage is a mark of maturity, a significant milestone in our human development. In 1st Corinthians 13:11 the Apostle Paul writes: “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (emphasis added).
Maturity involves taking on responsibility and a commitment to discipline. Someone has said, “The size of the man is measured by the weight of the responsibility he’s willing to carry.”

10. All men are not dogs. Many of us, have a sincere desire to be like Christ. In our quest, we don’t always get it right, but by the grace of God, we are learning obedience, by the things we and our fathers have suffered.

11. A basic rule in the royal family is never to marry a commoner. Old fashion as it may seem–it has biblical foundations. The Bible says, “Be not unequally yolk together with unbelievers… ” 2 Corinthians 6:14. Compatibility is essential in any relationship.

12. The ring–the symbol of marriage, should say, I belong, not I’m taken. To belong encourages yielded participation and a conduct becoming of the relationship. (submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.) Taken, however, conveys a sense of reluctant involvement fostering rebellion rather than yielded obedience.

13. Marriage is for love and because of love. However, love is a verb—it’s alive with action because it requires assembly. What good is having all the ingredients, if no one is willing to patiently mix them together, and bake the cake?

14. Marriage is reserved for compatible adults only. (“When Christians Mingle, Match doth come.”) Men and women who are willing to invest their lives together, in obedience to God. He, as architect and the wise master-builder; knows the end from the beginning, but like every construction project, each step is sequential. You cannot do step # 7, if you didn’t complete step 6.
It’s always costly and overwhelmingly frustrating when you have to go back, tear down what you’ve already built and start over again. Hence, ‘’Precept must be upon precept.”

15. Because God hates divorce. Malachi 2:14-16.

Ps. Same-sex marriage is not an alternative to Gods plan. The Bible said, it’s unnatural, unseemly and an abomination in the eyes of God. (Romans 1:24-28, Leviticus 18:22). Furthermore, two people of the same-sex cannot reproduce, neither should they be allowed to raise children: their actions will only serve to corrupt the mind of the minor.

Mama said, “Child don’t be silly, two left shoes can never be right regardless of who’s wearing them.”