Month: September 2017

Married with Children/Dogs

Three years went by before we exchanged vows in October of 2014. She is everything my heart desired–a tiny five feet three inches, 110 pounds, long (salt and pepper) hair, and an enchanting smile.

I learned a lot about her character and personality, from her profile on— “Christian” Her core color—White. My core color—Red. Red is also her favorite color. It therefore, didn’t take much for me to convince her that we could easily blend into a beautiful pink–another of her favorite colors. She joyfully agreed with an exuberant– “Yes we can.”

But, on listening to the key-note-speaker, at one of the many pre-marital seminars we attended, the 85-year-old pastor testified; “My wife and I are now married 65 years. The secret—I did not fall in love.” Surprised… we looked at each other, as a deafening silence blanketed the entire audience of about three hundred.

The speaker paused–giving everyone the opportunity to tune-in, to the next statement he was about to make. “But,” he continued, “I made a conscious decision to love her, based on the wise and godly counsel of others who knew us both. Many turbulent years have passed, but I’ve stood by my decision.” “Of course,” he said, smiling confidently as he gently adjusted his glasses over his m-shaped nose–“I’m now more deeply in love with her than ever, and it’s only death that can separate us now.”
I had not heard such profundity, about love and marriage—spoken with such simplicity. Immediately 1000 watts of light turned on in my head and heart. At that very moment, I decided–this is the woman, I want to love, honor and, cherish–in sickness, or in health, for richer, or poorer, till death do we part. So help me God!

However, her marriage package includes two adult daughters, and a ten months old grand-baby-girl; who loves singing especially when we’re at church. Our favorite hymn is, “Praise God from whom all blessings flow.”
But, the other half of this nuptial bond, involves not one, no–not two, but three dogs. Gigi, Pork Chop, and Honey– all females.  Our “empty nest” is inhabited by other life forms, which follow her footstep, everywhere. I mean every–where!

No! I don’t like pets–not cats, not dogs, not birds, not even a fish. I did as a child but I grew up and I have no time for pets, and I doubt I ever will. (Go ahead and sue me, or you can report me to the local ASPCA.)

Oh yes! Courtship can be euphoric. But, I had no idea; these four-legged creatures were going to be such a menace to our marriage. Why did I commit to this relationship? Simply… I made a decision, to love my wife, and I’m determined to go all the way.

Nevertheless, I’m convinced that before I spend my time and money on anything with four legs—canine, feline, bovine or otherwise–I would rather feed a hungry child somewhere in the world. Pet maintenance is costly. Three different brands of dog food, pee-pee pads, treats, pet licenses, and visits to the Vet…

In addition to all of the above, I’ve bought more lint brushes in the last six months, than I needed in the last fifty-five years. Dogs’ hair is everywhere, regardless of  how much we vacuum, sweep or Swiffer.

Don’t sit anywhere–is the repeated warning I hear every Sunday morning as we get dressed for church.

The constant demand for care and attention: walking, feeding, rubbing, bathing, etc. I would rather give to a human being– “Paying it Forward.” Dogs, on the other hand–regardless of the number of years of training, walking, feeding and cleaning up after–will never learn to wipe their butts or their feet before coming back into the house. These barking, Chicken-flavored-dogchow eating canines, simply walk back in, never closing the door, and get right back on the couch like nothing just happened.

Furthermore, will man’s best friend ever learn to go walking on their own, and return at a decent hour?

Can they, simply inspect each other’s rear end, without all the fussing, growling and fighting for no apparent reason?

Will they ever learn to knock on bedroom doors before entering

Will they ever learn to take baths or showers, and tidy up their beds?

When will they learn to go to the pantry, and pour a bowl of Gravy Train–cleaning up any spills?

Will they ever be able to open the door, to go out to the bathroom on their own? They seem to know how to find the right spot in the yard–so, why can’t they just open the same door, we’ve been opening since they were puppies?

I empathize with the elderly, who–in spite of adverse weather conditions, or the severity of their aches and pains–must take their dogs out for a “poop and scoop” walk. I often wonder–who’s walking whom?

And why are they holding-on to that loaded plastic bag as if it’s contents were valuable?

Will they ever come-to-terms with the fact that the mailman is here to deliver the mail and there’s no need for alarm? Enough, with all that barking and scratching, I’m sick of it!

Moreover, the older they get, the worse it becomes. Gigi’s recent visit to the Vet. for her constant vomiting, diarrhea, and loss of appetite, cost a whopping $350.00. Then, there was the special diet for two weeks, while we nursed her back to health. Dogs, ahh hh hh!


Gigi is eighteen years old. Her sister Pork Chop is seventeen. These off-breed Chihuahuas are the typical retired, older-seniors, with all the morning aches and ailments. Instead of the usual 6:00 a.m. backyard bathroom, Gigi pretends to be asleep and waits until we leave for work. She then finds her favorite corner of the living-room carpet to do her business. I think she is trying to tell us; she’s too old to go outside. (especially during those cold-winter days.)

The issue now is, whoever gets home first is greeted by the offensive odor, and therefore, must do the clean-up. I have learned after several tours of duty to remain later than usual on my job-site. (I’m self-employed). Teresa is a state employee and is usually home by 5:00 p.m. So, with “Bounty” in her right hand, the kitchen garbage container in her left—she bows to her knees, applying the quicker-thicker-picker-upper to the obnoxious, excreted mixture on the floor and walls. How does that slimy, brownish, green stuff get on the walls? We have no idea.

Pork-Chop is legally blind and also needs hearing aid. She’s an introvert, who prefers the comfort of a secret hideout behind the couch. She also has severe gas problems. You cannot be in the room for more than two minutes without getting a whiff of her presence. Yeh–she stinks.

Honey, is a 7-year-old Cocker Spaniel. A run-you-over, over-active female with a personality that’s almost human. Whenever she gets ready to play, you can either take the ball from her mouth or pick it up off the floor. But, she’ll wait about two minutes for you to decide, before dropping it–as if to say, “since you didn’t take it from me, you can pick it up yourself–but, we will play ball.”.

In their frustration–being left outside for more than thirty minutes, they’ll wander off into the neighborhood. A recent call from a not-so-friendly neighbor, turned out to be a thirty-minutes lecture on the proper care of animals. On and on she painted several scenarios of what could have happened; repeating the words–“you people” at every pause. Listening to her snobbish criticisms, you would think the dogs purposely came over to her house to complain.

This triple canine package is what I subscribed to, on marrying the woman I so dearly love. But, as the saga unfolds, the dogging evidence proves, that marriage is one thing, but with dogs–it’s O M G!

Why should she be rubbing their tummy, scratching their heads or hugging them when that kind of affection works better on me? I’ve often suggested that she makes better use of her time, especially after I’ve had a hard days’ work.

Whenever we sit together watching TV, Pork Chop sits on her right, Gigi on her left and Honey on her lap, leaving me to sit alone while they enjoy the comfort of her touch. Whenever I do get a chance to sit next to her, they will step across my lap to get to her. I’m an extremely patient man, and I love my wife, but this has got to stop.

An occasional feeding, the constant opening of the door day and night, I’m learning to deal with, but sharing my wife with dogs—this is my greatest challenge yet.

Why am I putting up with all this dog-gone drama? Has our marriage gone to the dogs? Why does a simple hug have to be always, so carefully negotiated, lest we step on the dogs? The recurring answer is–I love my wife, and yes–she loves’ me dearly.

“Love endures all things.”

I’m certainly learning patience, meekness and forgiveness, and most of all–to love–as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:25,KJV).

In conclusion, My daily prayer is–Lord, whenever you visit our house–“Be-Ware of The Dogs.”

Why Marriage?

Every three-year-old goes through the phase where, whatever is said to them, they’ll ask–Why?
Martha, it’s time to go to bed.
Because it’s getting late and we need to be up early for work, and you have school.
Because we have bills, and you need an education.
That’s life in the real world. OK… Now let’s go on to bed.
BECAUSE–I SAID SO. Now—go to bed or you’ll feel what happens next.
With so many negatives attached to the institution of marriage, it’s almost justifiable to ask; why…?
Why get married when you can just live together?
Why get married when “men can’t be faithful, and women cannot be trusted”?
Why get married when you can remain single and don’t have to deal with a spouse.
Who needs a man when a girl can have all the pleasure she wants with her toys?
Who needs a wife, when you can have the woman over for the weekend.

So, Why marriage?
1.Because God said so; “It’s not good that the man should be alone. I will make him an help meet.” Genesis 2:18. Living single is not part of the Masters plan.

2. A man needs a woman, and a woman needs a man to carry out the divine plan. Adam and Eve were the only two people present when God said, “Be fruitful and multiply… ” Genesis 1:28.

3. Any sexual activity outside of marriage is adultery or fornication. It’s not open-mindedness, and It’s not sexual fluidity. But, It’s degenerative, it’s sinful, and it’s wrong.

4. Marriage is the foundation for the family. An in-committed relationship has no structure. Hence “wherever Papa lays his hat, that’s his home.” Mama is never at home because she always has some place to go. Where? No one knows. We can speculate, but…. Thus, the children are left to fend for themselves with no adult supervision.
God in his infinite wisdom established the family, a man, his wife, and the children. Regardless of ethnicity and even in the animal kingdom, the family is made up of a male, a female, and their babies.

5. The most honorable thing a man can do in the eyes of God is to get married and take care of his family–in doing so, he’s following the example of Christ.

6. In marriage, a husband learns to love like Christ. God’s plan is that marriage progressively molds the man into the image of Christ. A man at the moment of his most intimate pleasure is most vulnerable. A wise woman knows how and when to make her request known.
Like Christ—who, for the joy set before him endured the death of the cross. In His most vulnerable moment, “grace” flowed without measure.

7. The married pastor learns (first-hand) the relationship between, Christ and the Church. For, the husband is to the wife, what Christ is to the church. Conversely, the wife is to her husband what the church is to Christ. Therefore, the pastors home is his first church. “For if a man knows not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God. 1Timothy 3:5.

8. In marriage, the wife exemplifies the church–she learns obedience to God by submitting to her husband. “wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord in everything.” Ephesians 5:24. Her submission to her husband is directly proportionate to her submission to God. If she refuses to obey God, she will not submit to her husband.

9. Marriage is a mark of maturity, a significant milestone in our human development. In 1st Corinthians 13:11 the Apostle Paul writes: “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (emphasis added).
Maturity involves taking on responsibility and a commitment to discipline. Someone has said, “The size of the man is measured by the weight of the responsibility he’s willing to carry.”

10. All men are not dogs. Many of us, have a sincere desire to be like Christ. In our quest, we don’t always get it right, but by the grace of God, we are learning obedience, by the things we and our fathers have suffered.

11. A basic rule in the royal family is never to marry a commoner. Old fashion as it may seem–it has biblical foundations. The Bible says, “Be not unequally yolk together with unbelievers… ” 2 Corinthians 6:14. Compatibility is essential in any relationship.

12. The ring–the symbol of marriage, should say, I belong, not I’m taken. To belong encourages yielded participation and a conduct becoming of the relationship. (submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.) Taken, however, conveys a sense of reluctant involvement fostering rebellion rather than yielded obedience.

13. Marriage is for love and because of love. However, love is a verb—it’s alive with action because it requires assembly. What good is having all the ingredients, if no one is willing to patiently mix them together, and bake the cake?

14. Marriage is reserved for compatible adults only. (“When Christians Mingle, Match doth come.”) Men and women who are willing to invest their lives together, in obedience to God. He, as architect and the wise master-builder; knows the end from the beginning, but like every construction project, each step is sequential. You cannot do step # 7, if you didn’t complete step 6.
It’s always costly and overwhelmingly frustrating when you have to go back, tear down what you’ve already built and start over again. Hence, ‘’Precept must be upon precept.”

15. Because God hates divorce. Malachi 2:14-16.

Ps. Same-sex marriage is not an alternative to Gods plan. The Bible said, it’s unnatural, unseemly and an abomination in the eyes of God. (Romans 1:24-28, Leviticus 18:22). Furthermore, two people of the same-sex cannot reproduce, neither should they be allowed to raise children: their actions will only serve to corrupt the mind of the minor.

Mama said, “Child don’t be silly, two left shoes can never be right regardless of who’s wearing them.”


Mr. President, Let’s build that wall

Dear Mr. President.
Congratulations on your triumphant victory after a gruelling 18-month long marathon to the White House. Man–you’ve got stamina! Wow! Thank God, it’s all over.
I promise–I will continue praying for you and your family.

I must confess–I did not vote for you or any other Republican. As a matter of fact, I encouraged everyone I know, to vote Democrat. However, the electorate has spoken and so we’re all striving to come to terms with our loss. As “Almost President” Michael Dukakis(D) said, “Losing sucks.”
Sir, as you deliberate on the priorities concerning our nation, I would like to strongly suggest, that within your first 100 days in office–you must, and I repeat–you must include, “Building a wall.”

Mr. President, this idea of building a wall, in no way coincides with your immigration reforms, border patrol or the plight of desperate Syrian refugees. This wall however, addresses the preservation of the dignity and honor, of the once esteemed office of the “Presidency of the United States.” An office which continues to lose prominence and significance, both from a national and a global perspective.
Let’s be clear, to build this wall will require drastic constitutional amendments—which, may warrant a vote by Congress to approve and implement the necessary changes. Nevertheless, I’m vehemently optimistic that with your expertise, you’ll be able to expedite this matter with calculated precision.

This wall, unlike that on your agenda, cannot be financed by the Mexican or Russian government. Moreover, we do not have the time or the luxury to debate this issue. You must hasten, to administrate every national resource within your power–to restore the excellency of the Oval Office (our seat of power and International leadership) We must protect our country from “Hackers, Bad hombres, Nasty Women and practically anyone who is not fit to be commander in chief.”

Sir, please let me explain further. In Corporate-America prospective applicants are required to have at least a bachelor’s degree, combined with some work experience, to be considered for employment. In many instances, related community service can be substituted for required experience. Health benefits and other perks are usually added, only after the initial ninety-day period.
But, it’s alarmingly evident, that for the highest office, in the greatest nation in the world, there’s little or no stipulated qualifications. Apparently, any Joe Bloke with a US birth certificate can choose to run for the  “Presidency of the United States of America.”

I therefore, beseech you–by the mercies of Almighty God–that with all diligence you build an impregnable wall. One that will safeguard any further hemorrhaging of this prestigious office. Indeed, sir– “Let’s Make America Great Again.” At this juncture is where the healing must begin, and you sir, have been elected to the job. You started it—now it’s your responsibility to finish it. You most certainly have the vision. I firmly believe–if you can make it plain and simple; not by a tweet, but a clear focused address to the nation–you no doubt will have the support of the majority–and yes, we will more than ever, be “Stronger Together.”

While all the media, pollsters, and political pundits predicted that you could not win this election, you apparently saw a path that proved them all wrong. Almost single-handedly you took on the establishment–even that of your affiliate party and ran a herculean campaign against a thirty-year veteran–and won. Amazing!
It’s going to take the political forensic scientists, several months to fully understand what really happened. No doubt, the history of the United States of America will continue to echo the sound of this TRUMP–ET for centuries to come.

Moreover, I strongly recommend you make this a matter of national security. Sir, building this wall will ensure, that in our 2020 election, this kind of ugly, negative, disgusting rhetoric never occurs again in these supposedly united states.
We should never publicly debase one another to exercise our democracy. As a civilized nation, with international leadership capabilities, we must do better. We must remove the mask that says “we are all Americans” and deal with the harsh realities which shows, that even in this 21st century–America is still divided by hatred, bigotry, injustice, racial prejudices, economic hardship and so much more.

The election campaigns of 2016, has clearly indicated, that there is still a White America, versus a Black America, with millions of Immigrants scattered throughout the Union. The question still looms–when will America become the United States?
Furthermore, before you attempt to “Drain the Swamp.” I suggest you “Build the Wall.” Failure to do so would result in an unprecedented number of displaced crocs. (crooks–power players) returning as consultants, lobbying the White House. Men, women and those in-between, who can indeed provide a US birth certificates, but are in fact Mexican, Syrian, African, Asian or even Russian. “Believe me,” draining a swamp exposes a lot of strange creatures.

In 1987, President Ronald Reagan, called on the then leader of the Soviet Union Mr. Gorbachev to “Tear down the walls.” Why then, are we seeking to build walls of division–at home and with our foreign allies?

So, here are my humble suggestions– (Allowing sufficient time for execution and implementations of policies and procedures) as of January 1st, 2018—candidates for the presidential election must possess the following minimum qualifications.

1. Must be a citizen born in the United States and must have lived in the US at least 20 years prior to the election.
2. Must be either male or female as evident by an original birth certificate. (Ambiguity and fluidity are contributors to Anarchy)
3. Must hold a doctoral degree in Law, and /or Political Science.
4. Must be between the ages of 50 and 70.
5. Must pass a mandatory medical and drug test.
6. Must be able to communicate well. (no name calling)
7. Must be a taxpayer and must release their tax returns for the past ten years.
8. Must have had no more than one bankruptcy. Certainly, not six or seven.
9. Mandatory background check. No criminal history. No pending legal matters.
10. Must be the husband of one wife
11. Must have held local and/or state office as Mayor, Senator or Governor for no less than 15 years. (combined experience)
12. Must be able to pass a test on world affairs. (e.g. Who or what is Aleppo?)
13. Must be fluent in two languages. English must be the primary.
14. Must have a good driving record, no DWI
15. Non-smoker of marijuana. (medicinal or recreational)
16. Must have documented evidence of having traveled to all states, and can name each state capital.
17. Must be a Christian and know how to pray…no longer are you going to tell someone “Our prayers are with you” and you don’t pray.
18. Must have a Fico Score of minimum 750. (Credit Check)
19. Must have an operating knowledge of the Constitution of the United States.

P.S. I further recommend that all prospective applicants be interviewed by a panel, comprising three past presidents, four chief justices and two members of the clergy. With their selection and recommendations, America votes. In this manner there’ll be no need for campaigning and the millions wasted can now be put to better use.

Sir, “We are Stronger Together–So Let’s Make America Greater.”
As it is Written–So let it be Done. Signed and sealed.

Marriage Equality and the Stupid Questions.

” Here I Stand… I Can Do No Other. So Help Me God… ”
These were the words of Dr. Martin Luther the renowned Reformer of the 15th Century. It was at such a time as this, “When basic Biblical Precepts were totally discarded, and those in high offices were actually selling license to sin.” However, the stark difference today is that these licenses are wrapped in a political agenda-labeled made in America, (one size fits all) and marketed as Gay Pride.
Traditionally, a marriage license is granted to individuals, male and female who intend on being joined together in Holy Matrimony. But, In these so called modern times, legislation are being approved from state to state–granting leeway for same sex couples to be married and their marriage be recognized as equal to the marriage of a man and a woman.

All of my life, some 50 odd years–I have always known a husband to be a man and a wife to be a woman. I’ve never had to consult a dictionary, Google, wikiHow or even ask anyone. All around me, in every sector of society: my home (Mom and Dad.), the neighbors, at school, at church, in government, (the President and First Lady)– everywhere without question or conflict there were men, and there were women. Men stood boldly confident in their position as Mr… , the husband of… , and women proudly wore their Mrs… , the wife of… There were little or no questions about the identity of the man or the woman.

A woman distinctly separated herself from any appearances as a man. Even the women of ill-repute were clearly identified as mistresses. Whose mistress and how well she was paid, separated her from her competitors. Mistress, lady of the night, or by whatever name she was called ; her identity was clear–she’s a woman.
A classy woman with some measure of wealth and recognition was considered a lady. A lady–defined by her social status, would be accompanied by a distinguished, gentleman.

But, there’s a new trend sweeping across our nation; the once– black and white distinction of male and female has now confusingly become several shades of dingy grey. The impact of this shady trend is such that it’s becoming increasingly difficult to determine whether you are looking at a man or a woman. This, coupled with the (LGBT) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transvestite community’s twisted agenda–is the sociologically complex future of our nation. Can you imagine a modern day America with a transvestite as president.  He or she conveniently interchangeable, depending on the circumstances?  Mr. President  one day and Mrs. Madam President the next. The First Lady may also be the First Man.

Have we as a nation, become so technologically advanced that we can now remove the foundation on which our civilized society has been built? Has the United States of America updated its profile to–“One nation, no longer under God”?
Nothing could be more ridiculous and unspeakably absurd as to consider, that in this 21st century, a wife can be a man, and a husband can be a woman.
Am I to believe that our national leaders expects me– a baby boomer–hooked on phonics, to follow this new-age direction and abandon my half century of learning so as to be up-to-date with this so called modern era–a society of repugnantly perverted men and women burning in sinful lust, one for the other.

In the sixties, the word gay once meant, happy or joyous. In the eighties and nineties it became synonymous with homosexuality. It has now fully matured and subtly transitioned into a whole new meaning depicting the culture of the LGBTQ. In this 21st century, the word gay simply means homosexual.
A man having sex with another man was once kept a secret shame. Furthermore, the Medical Journal prior to 1970 classified homosexuality as a mental illness; today, our consciences have become so seared that the abominable has become our national pride. This cancerous infection of human dignity, once benign–left untreated in the closet, is now a malignant epidemic.

The deceitful behavior of a cheating spouse (male or female) is abhorred as infidelity. Infidelity however, diluted into the “Gay” community, assimilates as open-mindedness.

God says’ marriage between a man and a woman, is “Honorable.” Hebrews13:4. “Same-Sex Marriage” he says’ is an “Abomination”Leviticus18:22.
There is no justice here in the eyes of Almighty God.
So here I stand, flat-footed on the eternal word of God.

Here are some of the Stupid Questions that come up…

Can Same-sex marriage be equal to a marriage between man and a Woman? The smart answer is– no.

How can two men cannot have an intimate relationship, unless one assumes the submissive role of the effeminate female?

Why would a man want a husband?
Why would a woman want a wife?

In seeking benefits as a wife, (in a partnership of two male.) how do you define the wife– When, the person in reference is actually a man?
Also, if they are pronounced as husband and husband; how can he claim benefits as a wife when he is a husband?
Well, is he the husband of a husband?
Is she, the wife of a wife?

Stupid Questions indeed.

Can they then both claim benefits as wives?

Will he be denied benefits, since they are both husbands?

When is the husband recognized as the wife?

When is the wife acknowledged, as the husband?

How many wives are there in a marriage?
How many husbands in a marriage?

In the relationship of two women, how do you claim benefits as a wife when you have a wife?

If you are not the wife in the marriage how do you claim benefits as the husband when you are also a wife?

These are just some of the stupid questions that arise in this senseless debate.

In times past, every young man’s goal was to marry a beautiful “Princess”, the girl of his dreams. Every young girl’s desire was to marry her “Knight in Shining Armor”– the young man who will fulfill her every desire. However, our society today is woefully affected by a climate of such utter darkness; that men leaving the natural use of a woman burn in their lust, one for another; men with men and likewise the women abandoning the natural desire for a man burn in their lust for each another. Committing acts which is against nature. Romans 1:26-32.

The truth is, if you are blind–it really doesn’t matter how bright the light shines. You are just… like my Grandma used to say, “You just plain ole blind.”

Consider this: In the animal kingdom, the family structure is made up of a male and a female: Dogs, Cats, Monkeys, and Rabbits just to name a few.
However, dogs and cats do not practice same sex relationships, as a matter of fact Monkeys don’t practice same sex relationships either–neither do rabbits, but College Grads do, Pastors, Ministers, so-called Christians, State Senators, Governors, Businessmen, Celebrities both in Sports and the Arts, Pan-Sexual Legislators… they all consider homosexuality an acceptable lifestyle.

If anyone is still having difficulty understanding the birds and bees basics of sexuality, and have already graduated high school, I strongly recommend tutorials– 1.”The lion king.” 2. “Finding Nemo.” These two movies should help to fill in the blanks.

The question once asked, “Are we smarter than a 5th grader?” But, the real question is– are we smarter than a monkey? Let’s quit all the silly debating over such a straightforward subject. What does the Bible say?
The facts are remarkably clear and quite understandable; we can pretend to be blind all we want to, but, I’m sure we can all hear the sound of the locomotive coming down these tracks.

In 1958, Arthur Schlesinger Jr. wrote an essay on– “The Crisis of American Masculinity”
In his essay, he asked: “WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO THE AMERICAN MALE? For a long time, he seemed utterly confident in his manhood, sure of his masculine role in society, easy and defined in his sense of sexual identity. They were men, and it did not occur to them to think twice about it.
Even well into the twentieth century… but one begins to detect a new theme emerging; the theme of the male hero increasingly preoccupied with proving his virility to himself… And by mid-century, the male role had plainly lost its’ rugged clarity of outline.
Today, men are more and more conscious of maleness not as a fact but as a problem.
The ways by which American men affirm their masculinity are uncertain and obscure. “THERE ARE MULTIPLYING SIGNS, INDEED, THAT SOMETHING HAS GONE BADLY WRONG WITH THE AMERICAN MALE’S CONCEPTION OF HIMSELF.”
This was in the year 1958. Here, we are today– with remarkable progress in so many other areas, yet we have become degenerates as humans with regards to discipline and morality.

Here’s one of those multiplying signs: A man marrying another man, seeks equality of spousal benefits as a man marrying a woman? By no means, should any society tolerate such behavior especially at a national level. If a man or a woman wants to dishonor their body in homosexual relations– then that’s their stinking, private business. We are free to do whatever we choose with your bodies. But know this– one day we will all stand before God to give an account for the deeds done. But, to ask the public to accept such a lifestyle as equal to that of a traditional marriage is absolutely ridiculous. It’s an insult to our Creator and to every right way. We may as well veto all Criminal laws, particularly “Thou shalt not kill” and Thou shalt not steal”. let Anarchy reign.

Here’s another sign. Polyamory–The whole rotten agenda of the proponents of this derogatory subject–an offspring of Marriage Equality is that married couples can share their beds with other married couples or singles and expand the network as far and wide as possible.

Furthermore, with this New-Age mindset there’ll be no limits to the number of partners, regardless of genders or age, individually or in groups and not limited to humans only.

Public Bestiality then becomes the next tabooed item on the obnoxious agenda of the–“Sexuality Freedom Fighters.” Very soon, this closet will also be emptied on the streets and parks of our nation. Then, Marriage Equality for animals and their human spouses will be the  subject for the legislature–in the New World Government.

In a recent article by Stacey Nelkin– Open-Minded about Open Marriage–She indicated that couples should be open-minded about open marriage. The question then becomes–how wide? Well, let’s see; tonight we invite the friendly, next door neighbors to share our bed. On tomorrow, for some variety–“the spice of life”, we invite the other mixed couple, across the street. By the week’s end, it’s an “Open House”; the public is invited, come- one, come-all, open your minds, explore your options, try new things, be free from all inhibitions.
Bring your dogs, cats, or whatever is your freak. Bring in the donkeys. Can anyone bring an elephant? Bigger is always better.

Can the children join the party; Oh no!–Little Bobby is only six years old.
“Go to your room boy.”
“Okay mom.” “Aaahhh… Mom can I then have some of my friends over– maybe we can have our own freedom party?”
Who sets the boundaries to this bizarre open-minded-madness?

the Stupid Questions (2016)

As Christ Loves The Church.


Why does marriage seem so complicated? Is it?
Why would anyone get married—anticipating a divorce? (No one does).
Yet, the distressing reality is–something is desperately missing:
The United States Marriage Statistics indicates…
A. Over fifty percent of marriages end in divorce?
B. Seventy two percent of those that stay together say they are doing it because of the kids.
C. Over ninety percent of those that stayed say they wish they could be divorced.That enchanting desires to be together forever, sadly ends within only days or months of the wedding.

The French proverb says’: “Marriage is like a place besieged, those within wish to get out, those without wish to get in.

”Marriage however, is the most honorable thing a man can do in the eyes of God. God instituted it, when he saw Adam in need of a suitable helpmeet. The institution has always been perfect; it’s the people who are flawed with imperfections.

For who can find a virtuous woman?
Her price? It’s far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusteth in her, so that he’s not jealous or uncertain of her love.
He’s confident that she will not deceive him, or cause him shame and embarrassment.
Moreover, she’s praised–for her true beauty is not her outward appearance, but her reverence for God.
(Proverbs 31:10,11,30. Paraphrased)

Also, “He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22).

Finding and marrying her is the easy part, the work begins after the honeymoon. When the excitement wanes and realties unfold. A new perspective, (on bills and babies, wants and desires, sickness and pain, in-law’s and undesirable acquaintances) all seen from the inside looking out. These and so many others can alter a relationship.
All the drama and complications, are never part of “His Divine Design.”

Far too many husbands have surrendered to slogans like “Happy wife equals happy life.” Their wives dictate the terms of the relationship, and he either complies or else.

Several wives have also traded their happiness for the financial benefits available. If her bills are paid, she has a credit card for expenses and he makes an occasional conjugal visit, he is free to do as he pleases.

Other spouses have conceded, “It is what it is” while suffering in silence, they’re together but living single–desperately yearning for a more meaningful relationship. These couples make up 25% of all marriages.

Yet there are others, “Cheaters,” deceptively living two separate lives. These “Oscar-winning performers,” move about the house like robots–cooking, washing, cleaning, taking the kids to school, or taking out the trash. A routine so well-choreographed, they even boast about the number of years they’ve been married. But, they don’t live there anymore -they’re physically present but emotionally–absent.

But, being married for a long time doesn’t necessarily mean the marriage is successful, and people are happy. I know of several couples who’ve been married for over 50 years, but their relationships are not worthy of emulation. They’re content with living separate lives—even attending separate churches. Somehow, they’ve learned to tolerate each other, settling for–“It is what it is.” Too embarrassed to fail, too afraid to start over, too proud to cry out for help and all too often, just don’t know where to turn or what to do next.

However, in a truly successful marriage:
A. The love of God is displayed.
C. Spouses enjoy the peace of God abounding with joy and happiness.
D. His sacrificial love inspires her utmost respect.
E. Spouses understand their need for each other; and are diligent in meeting those needs despite their imperfections.
F. They’re one–inseparable and everyone knows it.
Marriage in Crisis.
The answer to our marriage crisis is not better communication, more money, or better sex, (though all three are important) but an outright return to the word of God, and simply—follow the instructions. Christlikeness, must become the focus of marriage. “Put God first” should be more than a religious mantra. It should be a daily exercise in spirituality, for transformative growth.

Each spouse must adhere to a discipline of prayer and the study of God’s word. “Study to show thyself approved unto God a workman that need not be ashamed but rightly dividing the word of truth.” (2Timothy 2:15). When we know the truth, we’ll act accordingly.

”The training of the twelve was a constant and prominent part of the work of Christ.” (A. B. Bruce). Therefore, every born -again believer must commit to continuous discipleship training, particularly those contemplating marriage and more-so those who are married.

Many churches hold a new members class lasting three to six months. Discipleship however, is a life-long process, building precept upon precept. Despite advance technology in social media and the many mega-ministries available, yet so many marriages are destroyed for a lack of knowledge. We’ve traded our significance, for relevance, and as a result our relevance makes us insignificant. Jesus warns, “If the salt has lost its’ savor, it is thenceforth good for nothing….” (Matthew 5:13)

We sing and shout, we shake hands and dance, we say amen when prompted, we preach and take offerings, but we’ve failed to teach the truth of God’s word. Pastors are commissioned, “to feed the flock over which the Holy Ghost have made you overseers.” Instead, the flock bleeds—wounded by wolves in sheep clothing.
We are called to be lights. As he is, so are we to this world. What fellowship can light have with darkness? How are we to reach the lost, and keep those who are saved, committed to a life of obedience to the word of God, when we have so many broken homes and lives? How can you build a solid structure with broken pieces?

Is there not a balm in Gilead?

Is anything too hard for the lord?

Indeed, nothing is impossible with God.

If marriage is meant to reflect the relationship of Christ and the church, then the Image is badly distorted. We are seriously missing the mark. The Apostle Paul wrote: “My little children, of whom I travail in birth again until Christ be formed in you.” (Galatians 4:20). Christ must be formed in every believer. Sadly, this is not the substance of our modern-day preaching.

The Bible says, “If any man lack wisdom, let him ask of God who giveth to all men liberally…and he shall receive.” (James 1:5.) By “precept upon precept,” we can increase in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and our spouses. The choice is always to either, obey or disobey the word of God. There are blessings for obedience, and likewise, there are consequences for disobedience. (Deuteronomy 28).

Therefore, the success or failure of the marriage depends on the choice we make.
Disobedient by nature, we continually fashion ourselves according to the course of this world in deceitful lust. We would rather choose the course of the world, and the counsel of the ungodly than doing what the Bible says. Jesus said, blessed are they that, hear the word of God and keep it. (luke 11:28).
It was Mary the mother of Jesus who–at the wedding feast in Cana, admonished his disciples “Whatsoever he saith unto you, do it.” The results were miraculous–Jesus turned water into wine. Similarly, by our obedience to the word of God, that seemingly hopeless relationship can very well be a celebrated testimony.

Our Heavenly Father wants us to trust him every day, every step of the way. His promise is to make all things work together for our good. The circumstances he allows, are not to destroy us but to cause us to bond together and become better; instead so many become bitter. The demand for change often comes with intense pressure, but it’s the process by which diamonds are formed. Submitting to the process is where most of us struggle.

No one is perfect, we all have our unique differences, but by patience and understanding, with love and respect, we can all learn to work through whatever the issue.
Following a pattern isn’t always easy, since by nature we’re prone to doing things our way. But after so many failures, isn’t it time to re-examine the masters-plan and carefully follow the instructions? How sad it is, when instead of adhering to the counsel of the immutable word of God, pastors advise their congregants to seek professional help, as if the psychologist is better qualified than God. “These pastors, profess they know God; but in works they deny him…” (Titus 1:16). How can the blind lead the blind? (Luke 6:39)

The Bible says “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly…, but his delight is in the law of the Lord and in His law doth he meditate day and night.” Psalm 1:1,2.

Discipleship is all about following: “For even hereunto were we called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that we should follow in his steps.” (1 Peter 2:21). We talk about putting God first, but in practice he’s somewhere on the sideline—reserved for our convenience.

But if we follow the pattern–we’ll want for nothing
“He’ll lead us into green pastures,
He ‘ll lead us beside still waters,
He’ll restore our souls,
He’ll lead us in the paths of righteousness for his name sake,
Though we may walk through the valley of the shadows of death, we need not fear evil for He’s with us,
His rod and staff will comfort us
He’ll prepare a table in the presence of our enemies,
He’ll anoint our heads with oil, our cup will run over.
Surely goodness and mercy will follow us all the days of our lives. and we will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” Psalm 23.
The Lord is our Shepherd, we should follow him.

When Moses was about to build the tabernacle; God admonished him– “Do all things according to the pattern shown thee in the mount.” Numbers 8:4, Exodus 25:40, Hebrews 8:5. Moses obeyed God.

Marriage is not complicated as many would have us to believe and there are no secrets to happily ever after. Paul the Apostle writes: Be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind… Romans 12:2. The key is to cast away all pre-conceived ideologies, and be open to doing things God’s way. Whatever marriage models we’ve had in our past, they cannot be substituted for the specifics of the pure word of God.

Marriage is an institution of higher learning—registration is open to adults only. The basic requirements are an obedient heart and a made-up mind. Some things you’ll never know until you enroll.

But, Jesus said, ‘’Take my yolk upon you and learn of me.’’ (Matthew 11:28).
As we sit at his feet, “to as many as receive him, he gives power to become the sons of God….” (John 1:12). But, to become demands change. Maintaining a healthy marriage requires continuous emotional and spiritual growth. Moreover, because marriage is synonymous with Christlikeness, God ordained marriage to be catalyst that brings us into conformity to the image of Ghrist. The measure of His stature and the mark of this high calling to which we must press is–As Christ Loves the Church. What Christ is to the church and the church to Christ, must be mirrored in the relationship of the husband to his wife and the wife to her husband. (“This is a great mystery…. Ephesians 5:32)

The new curriculum Includes:
A. Listening and obedience.
B. Decisions and commitment
C. Teamwork and togetherness.
D. Changing and accepting changes
E. Discipline and Humility.
F. Openness and Intimacy.
G. Love and respect.
Graduates, will have a greater understanding of reconciling–one plus one equals one.

Here’s the prescribed synopsis—as listed in Ephesians 5:22-33.
1. Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Verse 22.
2. The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. Verse 23.
3. As the Church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Verse 24.
4. Husbands love your wives even, as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it. Verse 25.
To ignore these instructions is to guarantee a failed marriage or even divorce. The statistics clearly indicate how far we’ve drifted from these biblical precepts. Like Adam and Eve, we stubbornly persist, desperately trying to mend the breach with fig-leaves—man-made efforts that continue to fail. All the while God is calling us, back to a life of “obedience to his word.”

God did not ask the woman for her husband. He spoke directly to the man, because God knew exactly where he was. Adam! Where arth thou? In other words, God was saying I know where you are, but do you know where you are. Like so many today; Adam was lost in the darkness of his disobedience.
To Gods question, Adam replied, I’m naked and afraid. Adam was no longer aware of his environment; his innocence was removed and he became self-conscious.
Who told you that you were naked, have you done that which I commanded you not to…?
The woman…She gave me of the tree and I did eat.
Eve, what is this that thou hast done?
Eve replied, “The serpent beguiled me and I did eat.”
As we so often do, instead of acknowledging the wrong we’ve done–Adam blamed Eve, and Eve blamed the serpent. They both excused themselves by transferring the blame to another–a common trend in social net-workings to dodge accountability. The relationship they once had with God was broken by unbelief, which led to their disobedience.

God had commanded the man, saying, of every tree in the garden thou mayest freely eat. But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shall not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die. Genesis 2:16,17.
God didn’t need an advisor or press-secretary to clarify his statements. He said ’what he meant and He meant what he said. “God is not a man that he should lie.” Numbers 23:19. Whenever God speaks, our only response should be–to obey.
God will not double down for fear of contradictions or reprisals. He speaks boldly and clearly so that there’s never a need for questioning or explaining. He’s God–lovingly sovereign and graciously Almighty.

However, it’s common human behavior to hide when we do wrong. We prefer to live in denial and deceptive pretense, rather than confess and be forgiven. This is the unhappy state of so many marriages, hanging only by a thread of hope. Spouses, praying, that somehow the conflicts will go away and life will get better. But, there are no magical formulas; God says, “If we confess our sins, he’s faithful and just to forgive and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Why tell a lie, to cover-up the wrong–making the bad situation worse. There is nothing hidden which will not be revealed. Sooner than later the truth will surface.

To hope for things not seen is what the Bible describes as Faith. “We walk by faith and not by sight.” (2 Corinthians 5:7) What we see and feel, has nothing to do with Faith. Faith simply believes what God said. If God said it, then He’s well able to do exceeding and abundantly above all that we can ask or think… Ephesians 3:20.
There will be times when we’ll have no clue as to what to do, or where to go; when all our senses are screaming give up–It’s over–run away. It’s in those times we keep walking, even though it’s dark, it hurts, and the pain is unbearable. Like Job in the Bible, we must trust God, even when we feel forsaken, cast down, despised and rejected. When it gets difficult to pray alone–call for the elders of the church, but keep on praying. Never give up. Stand on His word and rest assured, He will make a way somewhere–somehow. Walk— not according to what you see, hear or feel, but by faith.

Walking is a natural, step by step physical activity most of us learned by age two. Likewise, we can all learn the discipline of walking by faith-step, by step, by step. Keep your eyes on the pattern and following the instructions. That’s all the master requires of us. God does not need our help in fulfilling his plan a nd purpose. Trust and obey is all that’s required.

Here’s a vital lesson I’ve learned…The Sunroom
While writing this book, God divinely orchestrated the circumstances whereby, I secured a project to install an 8’ x20’ Sunroom. In the construction trade, this is considered a small job, but in my world of expertise, this was huge. With no experience, I was both excited and apprehensive in fluctuating gut-wrenching intervals. Nevertheless, inspired by the challenge and the income potential, I Jumped right in.
An eighteen-wheel-tractor-trailer delivered the “kit” comprising of ten huge boxes each measuring 4’x 8’. Just seeing the truck and then the boxes were intimidating enough. But, I knew from experience assembling home furniture; my first order of business was to find the instruction manual.
Opening the boxes, I thought–how in the world am I going to accomplish this and where do I begin?
Where is the manual?
Why so many pieces?
Which screw goes where?
Question after question flooded my mind.
Somehow, I mustered the courage to calm my anxiety. Like Sherlock Holmes, I carefully examined each part, until I stumbled upon the manual. The pattern of the Sunroom was on the front cover. Rays of confidence lifted my spirit, as my fears subsided. Browsing through pages 1,2,3 showed every part alphabetically listed, and labeled with quantities in the adjacent column.

Then, on the top left-hand corner of page nine, in bold black and white, I saw–Step 1. Like a five-year-old, on Christmas morning I snatched those parts, and with meticulous precision, I assembled them following every instruction, step, by step.
I completed Step 1. Step 2., and Step 3. Hallelujah! An intense surge of confidence flooded my soul as I hastened to Steps 4 and 5. What at first seemed overwhelming became pleasurably comfortable as I confidently followed each set of instructions in direct obedience, one step at a time.

Of course, there were times when I didn’t quite understand the next move. I slowed down, rested a while and resumed with fresh insight. The following day, before resuming work, I carefully re-read the instructions, took a closer look at the pattern, and assertively followed each step, as if I had assembled sunrooms before.
Within one exciting week, following 72 steps, from an 82-page manual; I completed the project.

As in creation, I looked over what I single-handedly built and yes–it was good. I even took a few pictures. The homeowners were happy, and I gratefully went home–well paid.
Then, just two weeks later the weather forecast predicted a snow blizzard, with winds gusting up to 50 miles per hour with expected snow accumulations between 18 to 24 inches.
I was concerned but not troubled. I did as I was instructed in the manufacturer’s manual. Also, in our pre-sale discussions, the salesman assured me, that the product could handle the snow. How much, was the unanswered question.

On January 22,23 24, of 2016 after almost 48 hours, of 50 mph wind and snow; we had accumulations of over 18 inches as forecast. But, Hallelujah! Thank God! The sunroom is still standing, and there were no damages whatsoever. To God be all the Glory, forever.
I can hear the spirit of God saying to every couple—there’s no need to fear the storms of life if, we do whatsoever He says.
There’s no doubt; there will be storms.